Traditional systems theory is combined with the Gottman method, Object Relations, and Bowen theory to approach you and your loved one(s) in a way that accounts for your respective family of origins and goes beyond daily interactions, to pull back and look at themes in the relationship, and how communication, intimacy, and trust can be improved in practical ways.  Systems theory is the basis for conducting relational therapy, with the belief that it is never 100% any one individual’s “fault”, but that each individual in the relationship uniquely contributes to the current dynamics in the system of the couple or family.  Systems theory does not treat two individuals, but rather the whole of the relationship. 

Initial sessions with couples begin by gathering family and relationship history for both parties, and also determining what goals for treatment will be.  Goals may be revised periodically and will also be reviewed to determine how much progress is being made.  Homework will also be assigned and will help you and your loved one in achieving your goals for treatment.

Sessions for couples and family therapy are strongly recommended to initially be completed weekly, then progress to bi-weekly, tri-weekly, and then monthly sessions as you begin making growth in your relationships.  Couples and families may also be asked not to further discuss certain topics that have been explored in session, as to not undo any progress that has been made.  If certain issues become activated during couple or family therapy, your therapist may suggest each individual in your party also seek individual therapy (your therapist can provide you referrals for this).